I watched as each row was dismissed. After a few minutes, I decided it was about 50/50. I didn't see a pattern based on age, dress, or companions. About half of the time once a man exited his row, he stepped back and let his wife, daughter, girlfriend, and/or mother go in front of him. The other half, he walked out in the order he left the pew.
This scene took place at a wedding I attended over Christmas break. I am not even sure what made me notice, other than we were one of the last rows to be released by the ushers so we watched a lot of people exit.
The guy in front of me walked out with his wife trailing about three feet behind, and he never even looked back. You could tell that was what they were used to. As I watched them, it bothered me a little.
So guys, which half are you in? Do you treat ladies with respect? What about classmates? Do you let the door slam in the face of the person behind you? Or do you stop and hold the door? Do you let a girl go in front of you? Is that uncool? Or do you show kindness and respect to classmates?
And what about you girls? Do you say thank you when someone shows good manners and treats you with respect? Or is that just too old fashioned? When someone extends an act of kindness how do you respond?
Do manners go out of style? Do you talk the talk, or walk the walk? How many times a day do you say thank you? Are good manners important when you are twelve years old? Is it just part of being a caring and considerate person? Or is it just something that doesn't matter until you are an adult?
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I good manners are a good thing. I think this because you don't want to be at a fancy place being a jerk. Or not being polite its just rude. Nobody likes a jerk. If you meet somebody you don't like put on a fake smile and walk away.
I treat people with respect most times. When my and my friend go places we hold the door for her mom and we try to hold the door for her dad but he stops us and holds the door for us. When we get out of the car he opens the door for his wife and sometimes us. I know sometimes I don't have good attitude but I try to treat people with respect when I remember. So I at least try to treat people with respect.
I try to be kind and have manners but at my age I forget and have to think should I do this or do this and what would be nice and kind. I also try to show my manners at school and some people just say they keep their manners at their house but if you think about that then why don't have manners. Their is also some people with out any manners at all but they cant really help it because they didn't learn them when they were young. I try to have manners but some times its hard because manners arnt that fun some time and when your my age you like to have fun. Another thing is friends,well when some people are rude and not kind to their friends and they don't have manners that kind of effects the friend ship but also sometimes when your with your friends you hang out and just chill and forget about manners for a little bit. I think that is okay as long as you just not harm anybody.
Yes I do say thank you when somebody shows me good manners and treats me with respect. When people treat me with good manners I like it because it makes me feel good. When people treat me with respect I like it because I feel confident. It never gets old fashion because it is ALWAYS the right thing to do no matter what situation your in. When someone extends an act of kindness I respond by doing something nice for that person or complicating them by saying like hey, that was nice. People, just remember to treat people how you would want to be treated. I always walk the walk and I never give up on manners.
I think that I am a nice and have manners because that I say thank you in the lunch line. I hold the door for other people. Like when we are going to lunch, when we are going to recess and when we are switching classes too.
I say thank you when someone shows a random act of kindness because, it's nice to do that. If someone does something nice it would be rude not to say thank you because of how nice they was being to you. So do the right thing and be kind.
I probably say thank you about 50-60 times a day. The reason I say thank you so much is because a lot of people are nice to me so they do nice things to me so in return I say "thank you". Thank you is a special word it has a big meaning to it.
Having manners is just a part of being caring and considerate because manners leads to kindness which leads to more people liking you because you are so kind. Are you a caring and considerate person?
Good manners are very important when you are twelve years old because you are growing up to be an adult and of you have good manners now you will most likely have them your whole life.You want to have good manners because then people will respect you more. That is a good thing if people respect you.
Manners is not just something that matters when you are and adult. It is something you should do your whole life. Do you think manners is important your whole life or just as an adult?
My opinion is men should treat a women with respect and kindness no matter what happens. Men need to have .....
.Good Manners
.Respect
.And Kindness
I say thank you when people show me with respect.I even show other people with respect some times. You can show people with respect. I think when people say please and thank you to me I feel really good about myself. It feels really good because I'm being kind to someone. When I see someone sad sometimes I feel bad eval if i didn't do anything to the person.
I think it wouldn't kill anyone to help someone every once in a while. You can open the door for some one help them get up. do anything for someone I think that person would appreciate it.
I am polite half the time like if a person kept a door open for me I would say thanks. Sometimes I hold the door open for somebody but git no response.
I am even polite when my mom serves food. I say Thanks,your welcome or please. Times I just might forget.
When you hold the door for somebody be polite a second time and say your welcome. :)
I know some one that think they are nice when there actually really mean.
She is always sarcastic, judgmental, and is ALWAYS in complete denial when she did something wrong and she knows she did.
I normally (If I don't forget to) open the door for my family in restraunt or in public places.
I also think that just because they are women that they get to treat us like dirt.:(
Well to me the only people I treat with respect are the people who deserve it. By that I mean if I like them and they are nice to me I will treat them with respect, but if they are mean to me and I don't like them then I'm not gonna treat them with respect.
I normally don't let the door slam into my classmates faces on my fault because I don't know if the door is coming or not all the time but when it is I normally put my body against it and hold it fort everybody else so they don't get a door to the face.
I always let girls that are nice to me go in-front of me but only if I'm in a good mood because sometimes if I am hurt I don't tend to watch out for other people. I just do my own thing and pay attention to whats wrong and how I could possibly fix what happened.
I try to be polite when I remember. I get so caught up in being myself I forget some manners I mean I'll hold the door open for someone and I say thank you. But I'm only twelve and some kids don't even say thanks but I do.
I guess that's better than those kids that don't say thanks are your welcome. I show respect but other people don't
I think people are just rude these days and should be more polite. If you are able to lift a finger then go open a door for some body once in your life.
Maybe all of us make mistakes, but we all come out and do the right thing at the end. But at the end no body ever says thank you.
So after this post i think a lot of people will be nicer than they have ever been.
Well my opinion is that men should always treat women with respect and kindness. As a guy I try to treat every one with respect and kindness. I think it is important to make a girl say Thank you once and a while. Thank you is a really strong word. My parents know that I know how to treat a girl, but when I don't treat a girl right, it gets ugly when I get home.
I say thank you about 2 times a day but I say your welcome about 12 times a day. It is good to have good manners when your young because then you can teach your kids and then they will teach their kids which makes a lot more kind people and I think that will make the world a better place.
Tristen,
She is always sarcastic, judgmental, and is ALWAYS in complete denial when she did something wrong and she knows she did.
Based on the tone of your comment, I can't help but wonder if you missed the point of this blog post.
I love this post because I also let a girl in front of me Its just respect to me. I mostly never seen any other guy my age ever do that but me. Most girls probably think that they want to get in front so I would let them in front. Most girls are nice to guys and you should be nice to them and let them in front of you.
To me boys just DO NOT get out of the way for a girl. Most guys will be disrespectful. They will most likely say move, or get out of my way!
But to me... I think that I do that too sometimes.
I do that too to people when I am in a really bad mood. I'll shove my sisters or just say get away! But I shouldn't.
I do sometimes say excuse me.
I sometimes let people get in front of me or let them ditch.
Yes it is disrespectful for them to do that.... But "hey why not let them in stead of getting into an argument?
I will say thank you, or sorry. I say sorry all the time in school when it comes out mean and I don't mean it to.
But what i am getting at is that I can be respectful. But I don't all the time.
That is my opinion.
Mr.McGuire I'm with you, manners mean a lot to me. My Nana (my dad's mom) always told me about manners and how that they're are so important to society. But now it's all changed and people don't pay attention and do as they please.
Manners are important to me because when people are rude it just makes your day worse or not the best. Now I'm not saying that I'm polite all the time and that I'm perfect because I'm not, but I'm working on it. (and I need to work harder and you would know)
I believe that boys should let girls in front of them most of the time because If the boy got there first then I don't think he should have to move his spot in line. But if it so happens that a girl was about to get in line but he just races in front of her then he needs to move out of the way and let her through.
My friends and I are always getting bumped into and pushed around into walls in the hallway by people! (by boys and girls) And that's just rudeness all over. If you are trying to get through the person should say,"excuse me." kindly and politely. Instead of pushing through like a wild hog!
Yes I do say thank you whenever someone shows kindness because it's the right thing to do. Also I don't think saying thank you is old fashion at all.
Manners are always right to do and say even if it was something little you should always say please our thank you.
You should always have good manners, respect, and kindness. But just remember to treat people the way that you want to be treated.
Brandon,
I think people are just rude these days and should be more polite.
Please keep in mind that when you are writing, your tone is a reflection of your manners.
Basically all the time I say Thank you if someone holds the door open for me, but it rarely ever happens. So I think that people should open doors and stuff like that for other people because it will help the school not be so excited and push people to be the first in class.
Every time at lunch me and my friends get pushed into walls because people push to get to class.
Sometimes it hurts getting pushed into the doors and walls. If people at this school would start opening doors for people it would not be so bad and if people did open doors for other people then I would for sure say thank you.
Thank you for reading!
For me, I really don't think manners are important at a certain age. I think they only matter whenever there needed.
Although, I do have some questions. If you hold the door open for someone and another family is behind them, like, 5 yards away, would you still hold the door open? or would you close it and walk away? That's a question that always bugs me. :P
Another example would be at church. There you HAVE to have manners. I mean, it's church. Your not going to shout, or goof off. (I might do that sometimes, but I know now!) It's church.
Now, you don't always need to be polite. . .well? Let me rephrase that. You don't need to hold the door open forever for everyone to come in. And you don't need to be the one who let's someone go in front of you after a wedding and then have everyone ditch you. That's not right.
Trust me, somewhere were you don't need manners, is at the mall or a convention. Your probably don't want to be the one to hold open the door. Your probably going to be there ALL day.
I treat some girls nice and some not so nice. I think girls should be nice to. They need to be nice to me and maybe I will be nice to them. Maybe.I only treat girls nice if I like them. for example I will treat my girlfriend nice but I won't treat my sisters friends nice. Manly because they are my sisters friends and I don't like my sister.
I treat my grandparents with respect. I also treat my parents with respect. I will treat ladies with respect when they treat me with respect. Unless they are my girlfriend I will treat them with respect no matter what.I am just saying us men need to be treated with respect and kindness to.
Yes I do say thank you when someone treats me nice. Being nice never goes out of style because I see kids age 7-11 being nice in stores.
I say thank you 50-60 times a day because that's how nice people are to me. Good manners are important when you're twelve because it doesn't matter how old you are you can be 100 or 2 it doesn't matter.
Logan,
Well to me the only people I treat with respect are the people who deserve it
To me, having manners means you treat everyone right, all the time, because it is the right thing to do. After all, who has the right to decide who deserves to be treated with respect. It might be something you would want to give some thought.
I say thank you when someone shows me respect. I think manners should be used a lot because its a way of showing you have them. Just like this morning I was walking into school and Evan Huffman was too and I walked in and hold the door open for him and he said thank you. I like when people say thank you or your welcome when they do something.
I think that at recess that everybody should push and pull kids back its not kind at all. Also I think it really doesn't matter because we are all going the same place. I think girls should treat boys with respect just as much as the boys do.
Also when girls and boys don't have manners then I think they should try to be nice. Just like the saying treat others the way you want to be treated. Also I don't think boy's should let the doors hit girls in the face and I don't girls should do that either.
I treat a lot of people with respect but if they are a person who does not treats me with any respect then I`m not going to treat that person with any respect at all . Like if someone at a store just slams the door on me then I`m not going to open the door for them , I`m just going to slam the door in their face and forget about it .
I`m usually treating the ladies with respect but when it`s recess or lunch time I`m not going to let them go first because at recess I can`t wait to go outside and at lunch I want to get a good spot in line because the line takes forever .
I can be nice at certain times. I get mad easy and when I do I do stupid things. I am nice to certain people. If it's a ex who hurt me or something and I mad at the time I going to be mean most likely. If it's someone I care about or is nice I'm nice to them. It's most based on the mode I'm in. I can be really nice or I can be a real jerk. I do try to be nice and contain my anger though. So I an be nice and use manners but I'm mostly in a bad mode and are mad. I can put on a fake smile for school but outside of school I can be a real jerk. I can be a good friend and stuff but most of them know when I get mad do get on the bad side. Heath one of my best friends says that I have 3 side the nice side, the relaxed and crazy side, and the side you don't want to see. I am a great kid and stuff. I just do stupid things. Like yesterday I made a snow jump near my creek and tried to jump over it on my little sisters bike. I failed but it was funny. I am crazy. So I do use n=manners some times.
I personally think that everyone should have good manners and a good state of mind, because as you get older and you don't have good manners than maybe you won't have friends or a good life. Also because if you don't it could back fire when your older.
So that means if you have good manners and a good state of mind then great things could happen in the future. But if not I really don't know what will happen you could never have anyone around you. Or everyone will treat you how you treated them.
That would not be good would it? So always have good manners that way you treat others the way you want to be treated and maybe they treat you the same way.
I think manners are important no matter what the age. But that might just be me. I was taught to always have manners. If you didn't have manners it would be hard to make friends. Who wants a friend who is rude?
Plus if your around someone younger than you like maybe a sister or brother they look up to you. Your their role model. So if you set an example like being rude is okay. They will grow up and be rude too. But you should always have manners no matter who's around.
So no matter the age you should always have manners. To be a role model. Or just to be nice. You could even makes friends because of manners. So don't be rude. Learn your manners.
To me, manners are important at certain times. I mean like you don't really need to use them at a certain age,but just at certain times.
A prime example is manners I myself use at different times is saying please and thank you. I say these a lot, especially thank you when I get presents for my birthday or Christmas. I use manners 100% at church. I try to be nice to everyone at church and yeah.
A time when I don't really need to use manners is when at a mall. I don't want to hold the door all the time. I want to shop, not hold the door ALL day!
I am pretty good at using manners, but I myself don't always use them. Bye-Bye!
I consider myself as polite, but only because I think that my mom taught me good manners. When I was in first and second grade I remember we would have birthday "parties" for people in our class. Parents would come in sometimes and help serve food, and I was about the only kid there that would say "Thank you" to every single parent.
I don't think being polite has to do with being a boy or a girl, because not every boy is rude and not every girl is polite. I think it just depends on how you were raised and who you hang out with. I think being polite isn't hard to do, I mean really how hard is it to hold a door open? Or say please and thank you?
Being polite doesn't cost money or hurt you. So why don't more people do it? Being nice to people won't only help you but it will help others, because nobody wants someone to be rude to them. Just always be nice to others even when they aren't it will I consider myself as polite, but only because I think that my mom taught me good manners. When I was in first and second grade I remember we would have birthday "parties" for people in our class. Parents would come in sometimes and help serve food, and I was about the only kid there that would say "Thank you" to every single parent.
I don't think being polite has to do with being a boy or a girl, because not every boy is rude and not every girl is polite. I think it just depends on how you were raised and who you hang out with. I think being polite isn't hard to do, I mean really how hard is it to hold a door open? Or say please and thank you?
Being polite doesn't cost money or hurt you. So why don't more people do it? Being nice to people won't only help you but it will help others, because nobody wants someone to be rude to them. Just always be nice to others even when they aren't, it will help you make friends and keep them.
In my opinion, just having manners just lets other people know that you are a responsible, respectful and just ready to be a grown up and show that you have at least some manners. And when people are nice to other people then you might get a new friend or even a girlfriend or boyfriend.
Some times I can admit that I don't always have manners. Most of the time when I am trying to be so nice people just want to be mean or rude back. Here is an example like when we were all going outside I was letting this girl go in front of me and a kid just was pushing to go outside. Well they knocked me into the girl and she got pushed into the door and I said" sorry" even know I did not do it. But I felt sorry for her.
So that is just one time that I was trying to be nice and every one else was being so rude. So I just think that every one should be nice and have manners.
Manners are important but I dont think that we should use then all the time. We should use them we someone holds the door for you or when someone makes or gives you your food or something you need. Othere times you need to use themis when you bump into someone you should say sorry or exscuse me. Times when you dont need them are when... I don't know when you not going to need them because you need themfor everything.
I say thank you most of the time. I most likely say thank you if someone opens the door for me, that I don't know because I don't want them to think i'm rude. But if my family opens the door I don't say thank you. But if my parents do something nice I say thank you.
I always say thank you when someone buys me something. I usually only say thanks to my Grandma tho. I say thanks to my Grandma because she is older.
I say thank you probably about two to three times a day. If I am at home I probably don't say thank you a lot because it is family, they know I appreciate things they do with out me saying thank you. If I am out shopping I will probably say thank you a lot because strangers open the doors and stuff.
I do think it is important to have good manners because you will need to have good manners when you are older.
Manners are not out of style. Manners are very important but sometimes you don't need manners.
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